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The fact that you’re on this page probably means that you either have Autism Spectrum Disorder (or suspect you might do) or you have been on the receiving end of Narcissistic Abuse. I specialise in working with women with Autism Spectrum Disorder and people who have experienced narcissistic abuse and am on Psychology Today’s in-house panel of experts where I write regularly on these subjects.
Why autism and narcissistic abuse (and is there a link)?
I was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in my late forties and this discovery has transformed how I view my past and how I manage my present life. Particularly with regard to current management, I am aware of those things in life which are difficult – such as excessive socialising – and have measures in place to deal with them. Discovering I had Autism Spectrum Disorder has helped me with the self-esteem issues I’d suffered with for a lifetime. Realising that some of my ways of being were simply due to the way my brain worked, as opposed to searching for what was “wrong” with me, changed the way I viewed myself and the world.
Exploring the impact that the narcissistic family in which I was raised has had on me has, hand in hand with my diagnosis, also transformed my understanding of myself. Putting a finger on narcissistic abuse is a tough thing to do and once you can name it, you can start to offer yourself the kindness and empathy which was lacking in your life. When you’re raised in a narcissistic family, abusive behaviour of all kinds is hidden beneath layers of lies and secrets and gaslighting behaviours. The effects of growing up in a narcissistic family environment can take years to move on from and I want to share my experiences of doing so with other people.
Although Autism Spectrum Disorder and being on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse may seem worlds apart, in fact there is a strong link between people with Autism Spectrum Disorder and abuse. This is partly because people with ASD tend to take things literally and have difficulties reading the “sub-texts” in communication, making them easy prey for abusive characters.
Women’s Autism Spectrum Disorder is a condition which presents very differently to male Autism Spectrum Disorder and many women spend their whole lives feeling something is wrong, but not knowing what. I help women determine whether or not they may have ASD and then walk them through the stages, from deciding whether to pursue to a formal diagnosis and how to go about it to coming up with supportive strategies for navigating the complexities of life.
People who have been raised in narcissistic families experience everything from a loss of sense of self to a tendency to act as enablers and rescuers to other people. When you’re raised by a narcissistic parent, and may have been subjected to narcissistic behaviour by siblings, you may well find yourself repeating these patterns and choosing narcissistic characters as friends and partners. Without help in overcoming your narcissistic upbringing, you might even find yourself repeating these patterns with your own children. I can help you increase your awareness about the narcissistic abuse which has taken place in your life before helping you develop strategies to move forwards and develop your sense of self.
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